The
life of Aishah is proof that a woman can be far more learned
than men and that she can be the teacher of scholars and
experts. Her life is also proof that a woman can exert
influence over men and women and provide them with inspiration
and leadership. Her life is also proof that the same woman
can be totally feminine and be a source of pleasure, joy
and comfort to her husband.
She
did not graduate from any university there were no universities
as such in her day. But still her utterances are studied
in faculties of literature, her legal pronouncements are
studied in colleges of law and her life and works are
studied and researched by students and teachers of Muslim
history as they have been for over a thousand years.
The
bulk of her vast treasure of knowledge was obtained while
she was still quite young. In her early childhood she
was brought up by her father who was greatly liked and
respected for he was a man of wide knowledge, gentle manners
and an agreeable presence. Moreover he was the closest
friend of the noble Prophet who was a frequent visitor
to their home since the very early days of his mission.
In
her youth, already known for her striking beauty and her
formidable memory, she came under the loving care and
attention of the Prophet himself. As his wife and close
companion she acquired from him knowledge and insight
such as no woman has ever acquired.
Aishah
became the Prophet's wife in Makkah when she was most
likely in the tenth year of her life but her wedding did
not take place until the second year after the Hijrah
when she was about fourteen or fifteen years old. Before
and after her wedding she maintained a natural jollity
and innocence and did not seem at all overawed by the
thought of being wedded to him who was the Messenger of
God whom all his companions, including her own mother
and father, treated with such love and reverence as they
gave to no one else.
About
her wedding, she related that shortly before she was to
leave her parent's house, she slipped out into the courtyard
to play with a passing friend:
"I
was playing on a see-saw and my long streaming hair was
dishevelled," she said. "They came and took me from my
play and made me ready."
They
dressed her in a wedding-dress made from fine red-striped
cloth from Bahrain and then her mother took her to the
newly-built house where some women of the Ansar were waiting
outside the door. They greeted her with the words "For
good and for happiness may all be well!" Then, in the
presence of the smiling Prophet, a bowl of milk was brought.
The Prophet drank from it himself and offered it to Aishah.
She shyly declined it but when he insisted she did so
and then offered the bowl to her sister Asma who was sitting
beside her. Others also drank of it and that was as much
as there was of the simple and solemn occasion of their
wedding. There was no wedding feast.
Marriage
to the Prophet did not change her playful ways. Her young
friends came regularly to visit her in her own apartment.
"I
would be playing with my dolls," she said, "with the girls
who were my friends, and the Prophet would come in and
they would slip out of the house and he would go out after
them and bring them back, for he was pleased for my sake
to have them there." Sometimes he would say "Stay where
you are" before they had time to leave, and would also
join in their games. Aishah said: "One day, the Prophet
came in when I was playing with the dolls and he said:
'O Aishah, whatever game is this?' 'It is Solomon's horses,'
I said and he laughed." Sometimes as he came in he would
screen himself with his cloak so as not to disturb Aishah
and her friends.
Aishah's
early life in Madinah also had its more serious and anxious
times. Once her father and two companions who were staying
with him fell ill with a dangerous fever which was common
in Madinah at certain seasons. One morning Aishah went
to visit him and was dismayed to find the three men lying
completely weak and exhausted. She asked her father how
he was and he answered her in verse but she did not understand
what he was saying. The two others also answered her with
lines of poetry which seemed to her to be nothing but
unintelligible babbling. She was deeply troubled and went
home to the Prophet saying:
"They
are raving, out of their minds, through the heat of the
fever." The Prophet asked what they had said and was somewhat
reassured when she repeated almost word for word the lines
they had uttered and which made sense although she did
not fully understand them then. This was a demonstration
of the great retentive power of her memory which as the
years went by were to preserve so many of the priceless
sayings of the Prophet.
Of
the Prophet's wives in Madinah, it was clear that it was
Aishah that he loved most. From time to time, one or the
other of his companions would ask:
"O
Messenger of God, whom do you love most in the world?"
He did not always give the same answer to this question
for he felt great love for many for his daughters and
their children, for Abu Bakr, for Ali, for Zayd and his
son Usamah. But of his wives the only one he named in
this connection was Aishah. She too loved him greatly
in return and often would seek reassurance from him that
he loved her. Once she asked him: "How is your love for
me?"
"Like
the rope's knot," he replied meaning that it was strong
and secure. And time after time thereafter, she would
ask him: "How is the knot?" and he would reply: "Ala haaliha
in the same condition."
As
she loved the Prophet so was her love a jealous love and
she could not bear the thought that the Prophet's attentions
should be given to others more than seemed enough to her.
She asked him:
"O
Messenger of God, tell me of yourself. If you were between
the two slopes of a valley, one of which had not been
grazed whereas the other had been grazed, on which would
you pasture your flocks?"
"On
that which had not been grazed," replied the Prophet.
"Even so," she said, "and I am not as any other of your
wives. "Everyone of them had a husband before you, except
myself." The Prophet smiled and said nothing. Of her jealousy,
Aishah would say in later years:
"I
was not, jealous of any other wife of the Prophet as I
was jealous of Khadijah, because of his constant mentioning
of her and because God had commanded him to give her good
tidings of a mansion in Paradise of precious stones. And
whenever he sacrificed a sheep he would send a fair portion
of it to those who had been her intimate friends. Many
a time I said to him: "It is as if there had never been
any other woman in the world except Khadijah."
Once,
when Aishah complained and asked why he spoke so highly
of "an old Quraysh woman", the Prophet was hurt and said:
"She was the wife who believed in me when others rejected
me. When people gave me the lie, she affirmed my truthfulness.
When I stood forsaken, she spent her wealth to lighten
the burden of my sorrow.."
Despite
her feelings of jealousy which nonetheless were not of
a destructive kind, Aishah was really a generous soul
and a patient one. She bore with the rest of the Prophet's
household poverty and hunger which often lasted for long
periods. For days on end no fire would be lit in the sparsely
furnished house of the Prophet for cooking or baking bread
and they would live merely on dates and water. Poverty
did not cause her distress or humiliation; self-sufficiency
when it did come did not corrupt her style of life.
Once
the Prophet stayed away from his wives for a month because
they had distressed him by asking of him that which he
did not have. This was after the Khaybar expedition when
an increase of riches whetted the appetite for presents.
Returning from his self-imposed retreat, he went first
to Aishah's apartment. She was delighted to see him but
he said he had received Revelation which required him
to put two options before her. He then recited the verses:
"O
Prophet! Say to your wives: If you desire the life of
this world and its adornments, then come and I will bestow
its goods upon you, and I will release you with a fair
release. But if you desire God and His Messenger and the
abode of the Hereafter, then verily God has laid in store
for you an immense reward for such as you who do good."
Aishah's
reply was:
"Indeed
I desire God and His Messenger and the abode of the Hereafter,"
and her response was followed by all the others.
She
stuck to her choice both during the lifetime of the Prophet
and afterwards. Later when the Muslims were favored with
enormous riches, she was given a gift of one hundred thousand
dirhams. She was fasting when she received the money and
she distributed the entire amount to the poor and the
needy even though she had no provisions in her house.
Shortly after, a maidservant said to her: "Could you buy
meat for a dirham with which to break your fast?"
"If
I had remembered, I would have done so," she said. The
Prophet's affection for Aishah remained to the last. During
his final illness, it was to Aishah's apartment that he
went at the suggestion of his wives. For much of the time
he lay there on a couch with his head resting on her breast
or on her lap. She it was who took a toothstick from her
brother, chewed upon it to soften it and gave it to the
Prophet. Despite his weakness, he rubbed his teeth with
it vigorously. Not long afterwards, he lost consciousness
and Aishah thought it was the onset of death, but after
an hour he opened his eyes.
Aishah
it is who has preserved for us these dying moments of
the most honoured of God's creation, His beloved Messenger
may He shower His choicest blessings on him.
When
he opened his eyes again, Aishah remembered Iris having
said to her: "No Prophet is taken by death until he has
been shown his place in Paradise and then offered the
choice, to live or die."
"He
will not now choose us," she said to herself. Then she
heard him murmur: "With the supreme communion in Paradise,
with those upon whom God has showered His favor, the Prophets,
the martyrs and the righteous..." Again she heard him
murmur: "O Lord, with the supreme communion," and these
were the last words she heard him speak. Gradually his
head grew heavier upon her breast, until others in the
room began to lament, and Aishah laid his head on a pillow
and joined them in lamentation.
In
the floor of Aishah's room near the couch where he was
lying, a grave was dug in which was buried the Seal of
the Prophets amid much bewilderment and great sorrow.
Aishah
lived on almost fifty years after the passing away of
the Prophet. She had been his wife for a decade. Much
of this time was spent in learning and acquiring knowledge
of the two most important sources of God's guidance, the
Quran and the Sunnah of His Prophet. Aishah was one of
three wives (the other two being Hafsah and Umm Salamah)
who memorized the Revelation. Like Hafsah, she had her
own script of the Quran written after the Prophet had
died.
So
far as the Ahadith or sayings of the Prophet is concerned,
Aishah is one of four persons (the others being Abu Hurayrah,
Abdullah ibn Umar, and Anas ibn Malik) who transmitted
more than two thousand sayings. Many of these pertain
to some of the most intimate aspects of personal behavior
which only someone in Aishah's position could have learnt.
What is most important is that her knowledge of hadith
was passed on in written form by at least three persons
including her nephew Urwah who became one of the greatest
scholars among the generation after the Companions.
Many
of the learned companions of the Prophet and their followers
benefitted from Aishah's knowledge. Abu Musa al-Ashari
once said: "If we companions of the Messenger of God had
any difficulty on a matter, we asked Aishah about it."
Her
nephew Urwah asserts that she was proficient not only
in fiqh but also in medicine (tibb) and poetry. Many of
the senior companions of the Prophet came to her to ask
for advice concerning questions of inheritance which required
a highly skilled mathematical mind. Scholars regard her
as one of the earliest fuqaha of Islam along with persons
like Umar ibn al-Khattab, Ali and Abdullah ibn Abbas.
The Prophet referring to her extensive knowledge of Islam
is reported to have said: "Learn a portion of your religion
(din) from this red colored lady." "Humayra" meaning "Red-coloured"
was an epithet given to Aishah by the Prophet.
Aishah
not only possessed great knowledge but took an active
part in education and social reform. As a teacher she
had a clear and persuasive manner of speech and her power
of oratory has been described in superlative terms by
al-Ahnaf who said: "I have heard speeches of Abu Bakr
and Umar, Uthman and Ali and the Khulafa up to this day,
but I have not heard speech more persuasive and more beautiful
from the mouth of any person than from the mouth of Aishah."
Men
and women came from far and wide to benefit from her knowledge.
The number of women is said to have been greater than
that of men. Besides answering enquiries, she took boys
and girls, some of them orphans, into her custody and
trained them under her care and guidance. This was in
addition to her relatives who received instruction from
her. Her house thus became a school and an academy.
Some
of her students were outstanding. We have already mentioned
her nephew Urwah as a distinguished reporter of hadith.
Among her women pupils is the name of Umrah bint Abdur
Rahman. She is regarded by scholars as one of the trustworthy
narrators of hadith and is said to have acted as Aishah's
secretary receiving and replying to letters addressed
to her. The example of Aishah in promoting education and
in particular the education of Muslim women in the laws
and teachings of Islam is one which needs to be followed.
After
Khadijah al-Kubra (the Great) and Fatimah az-Zahra (the
Resplendent), Aishah as-Siddiqah (the one who affirms
the Truth) is regarded as the best woman in Islam. Because
of the strength of her personality, she was a leader in
every field in knowledge, in society, in politics and
in war. She often regretted her involvement in war but
lived long enough to regain position as the most respected
woman of her time. She died in the year 58 AH in the month
of Ramadan and as she instructed, was buried in the Jannat
al-Baqi in the City of Light, beside other companions
of the Prophet.